Have you ever realized at some point that you’re not happy? Something doesn’t fit. You don’t feel good where you are, or in the situation you’re in, or with the people around you. You feel it, you know it, and then your mind betrays you: “What are you complaining about when you have so much?”, “Everything is fine,” “Life isn’t easy, you just have to keep going,” “You’re not going to give up at the first sign of trouble,” “It’s your family, you can’t leave them,” etc. And it’s not that what your mind is telling you is wrong, but that you keep repeating it to yourself over and over again, and that feeling doesn’t change. At that moment, you have to listen to what your heart is telling you. The question is always what you’re feeling at that moment, and why you feel that way. If you suddenly feel like you don’t fit in with the people around you, then the question is, why? What has changed in you, what has changed in general, in your life, in your dreams? At some point, you lost your way. It’s time for a change for you. It’s time to bring out your true self, to listen to that inner voice that tells you that these circumstances aren’t right for you right now. If you ignore that inner voice, that strange feeling you have, then that voice becomes an internal scream, that strange feeling becomes bodily pain, even an illness. We become more lost, we shut down, we only do what our mind tells us. And the mind repeats back to us what we’ve heard and learned from the outside, what’s supposed to be the best we should do, because that’s what others expect. But what others expect isn’t the best for you. You are the only one who knows what’s best for yourself.
If at any time you feel out of place, then ask yourself why you feel that way. The first feeling that comes to you is the right answer, whatever the reason; your inner voice never lies. Then decide, decide for yourself. Decide based on what your instinct tells you: maybe you have another project that no one around you is interested in hearing about, and they tell you it’s useless, they don’t support you the same way. You do what your instinct tells you. Or maybe your instinct tells you you’re wasting your time because you want to dedicate yourself to your favorite hobby, to reading or exercising, then make up your mind, decide for yourself. And even if you’re in a relationship that doesn’t add to you, doesn’t support you, in fact, drains your energy. Every day, every week, every month, and every year that passes, you realize that you’re fading away more and more. What are you still doing there? The message is very clear: if you no longer smile, and you end up feeling worse while you’re with your friends and family, then you’re not in the right place. Yes, it’s difficult to go against society’s expectations, against family norms, against what is expected of “a good woman,” but it’s the best thing you can do for yourself, because only when you’re confident in yourself, loving yourself and following your own heart, only then will you be able to be at peace and give more love to others. When you’re at peace, you’ll have more patience, when you’re at peace, you’ll smile more, when you’re at peace, you’ll distribute that peace to others as well. So, there’s no point in meeting expectations while you’re drowning internally, because in the end, you’ll only end up sick, tired, and no one will feel love from you. There was a time in your childhood, in your youth, when you were vital and smiling, with dreams and strength; if you’re not like that now, it’s not because of age, it’s not because “that’s just how life is,” it’s simply that you’ve forgotten about yourself and are practically dying in life. So live! Wake up! Listen to yourself! And love yourself! It all depends on you, how you take things and how you see things, how you recognize yourself and then you will discover your old self, you will rediscover your light and you will see the change.
